Emotional Correctness

I never watch Fox News and I have never seen Sally Kohn before this video came across my desk.

I cannot imagine getting the amount of hate mail that she gets.

But her point that political persuasion does not begin with facts or data, but respect, empathy and compassion for the other person no matter what political or cultural differences you may have, is a message worth listening to and reflecting upon.

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“Our challenge is to have the compassion for others we want them to have for us. That is emotional correctness…that is how we start the conversations that really make the change.”

Here is a link to the video:

Let’s Talk Emotional Correctness



Is Compassion the Secret Ingredient of Happiness?

The dalai lama

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Meditative science’s expert on happiness, Matthieu Ricard  and Richard Davidson et al. at the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds think so. The Dalai Lama has said, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

It doesn’t appear to be coincidence that most of the research done on the effects of meditation on brain change are done by focusing on compassion.  The results in strengthening attention, focus and general sense of well being are remarkable. (See the results in upcoming posts.)

Here are the 5 areas that compassion is focused on during meditation:

1. Compassion focused on a loved one,

2. Compassion focused on someone you see regularly but don’t necessarily know,

3. Compassion on someone who has caused you pain,

4.  And probably most importantly, compassion focused on yourself.



What is Intelligence? (Part 1)


Intelligence is the ability to discriminate; or more succinctly, the ability to respond to the events in your life in a manner that is in alignment with whatever your desired outcome is. Intelligence is the combination of experience and reflection.

What is Intelligence-Part 1

Experience can be something that one has personally “experienced”, learned by role modeling, gotten from training, a good book, film, music, or an “aha’ moment that originates from somewhere inside of you.
Experience when associated with emotion either good or bad becomes more strongly etched in the mind/brain and the strength and quality of that emotional association (pain or pleasure) determines how we view and use that experience in the future. This an innate physiological response that can be based on a one time experience. If we associate the experience negatively, we limit its usage in the future as it humans tend to want to avoid pain at all costs.

It can be as simple as one bad math grade=”I’m bad in math.” Someone making fun of us when we are trying to learn a new skill =“I’ll never try that again.” Or a rude and/or competitive person commenting ”have you gained weight”=”I’m fat.”

Our intelligence is limited or enhanced by the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves. Some of those stories we consciously tell ourselves, others are logged somewhere in the subconscious mind below our conscious awareness. These stories can contribute positively to our intelligence or they can contribute negatively depending on what we tell ourselves. Even the tone of our interior voice can affect the way we perceive ourselves.

These stories tell us yes, we can do that, or no, we will never be able to do that creating insecurity and shrinking our ability to control the outcomes in our lives.

Two very important skills worth acquiring are:

1. The ability to access those stories that influence our intelligence and therefore control our behavior and the creation of successful outcomes in our lives.
2. And its twin, the ability to change the stories that hold us back into ones that propel us forward in a direction that aids our success in achieving our desired outcomes..

These are some of the skills that we teach in our seminars.

All you have to do is make a decision that acquiring more effective control over the outcomes in your life is is necessary and then making a commitment to learn the necessary skills and then practice them until they become a part of your native intelligence.



Stress Management is a Benefit of Meditative Science

What would happen if you came up with one idea that changed the course of your life forever? What if you could learn to control the landscape of your mind so that you could change whatever you need to change to live fully, to live out your unique purpose for being on this wonderful planet earth.

What would that be worth to you? What if you could eliminate all the negative stress in your life and calmly and creatively meet all the inevitable obstacles and interruptions in life with thoughtful solutions without allowing derailment to be be an option?

Stress Management

 It is well known that putting the body under consistent long term stress has harmful effects. It weakens the immune system, making it either under or over active or alternating between the two. Many studies have shown that over 98% of trips to the family physician are for stress related illnesses. Migraines, tension headaches, digestive problems, muscle tension, and aches and pains, not to mention anxiety, overeating, and other addictive and escapist behaviors.

In our corporate stress management division, we greatly reduced the absenteeism associated with migraines at a major managed health care facility. Using relaxation techniques, we fostered body awareness and were able to significantly reduce shoulder and neck strain injuries and the number of surgeries for carpal tunnel injury.

We taught pregnant women to create their own anesthesia during childbirth through the power of their own mind.

So what is going on here?

People learn to access parts of their mind/brain that they have possessed all along time but no one has ever taught them how to use.

We all know that our mind controls our physiology. Think of your favorite sexual fantasy and the resulting physicality, or how your body feels when you get very angry.

What if you could consciously control your physiology? Any professional athlete will tell you that mental fitness is the key to their success, for without it, they could not train harder and push themselves through pressure and inevitable disappoints that arise in competitive sports.

Many community healthcare departments have trained their EMT’s and paramedics to give just the right suggestions to trauma victims to stop excessive bleeding and reduce or speed up heart rate as needed as part of the stabilization process.

Wouldn’t you love to have that kind of control over your own mind to modify eating habits, increase your physical activity, motivate yourself to write that book or article that is living inside of you. Or how about to just sail calmly and peacefully through life not getting tripped up on events and personalities that you cannot change, but taking control to change that which you can change and the internal wisdom to know the difference?

All this involves the accessing of the wisdom  part of your mind/brain or to use an old term “expand your consciousness” without external substances. The techniques are relatively simple, but practice is required to claim permanent usage of the newly acquired real estate that has been lying fallow between the ears.

How can you not want the competitive edge to create your own life rather having it created by those who have perfected programming your brain…media, marketing advertising.. your friends..almost everything in in your environment.

Take it back, take back control of mind, take back control over your life.

Take it back from junk food, television, mindless Facebook games, whatever your personal life waster(s) may be and start living out your purpose for being here.

Research has shown that everyone has a life purpose and those who know and live it are happier, healthier and weather the inevitable storms of life more gracefully, turning problems into opportunities.